A cool thing happened

A few weeks ago my cousin Caren, the artist and singer and Mexican-candy provider (thank you, beibi), came to visit. This is the second time she’s stayed with us in New York, and once upon a time I visited her in Paris, so I can say with authority that she is a fantastic city explorer. It’s always fun to play tourist with her because she’s up for anything and everything, but she also has ideas for what to do so we never get bored, and she always manages to sneak in some culture-with-a-capital-C while we’re together so it’s not just vintage hats, phone cases, vegan soup, and garlic pills (the last one was her idea).

Last time she was here we saw two operas (okay, okay; she saw two operas. I saw one…and a half), and this time we went to see a play I’d been dying to see called This Is Our Youth, starring Michael Cera (from Arrested Development), Tavi Gevinson (from THE INTERNET), and Kieran Culkin (from, um, the Culkin family!).

Afterward, Caren and Devin kindly waited with me to meet the actors and get their autographs, and I even got a picture with Tavi, who seemed just as fun and interesting as she does online and prompted me to think about how much I love the internet. Really. *NERD ALERT* I’m grateful to have this way of finding community, learning about new things, and staying close with the people I love. The whole thing is so weird and cool, and I’m still as amazed by it as I was the first time I heard about it on the radio in July of 1996. I don’t think I’ll ever have the words to fully pay homage to the World Wide Web, so let me stop here.

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Fun fact: I am pretty short and shy, so to get the autographs I just kind of stuck my playbill up and hoped they’d see it. When Kieran Culkin signed it, he said, “Aggressive. I like that.” I immediately thought of Sheryl Sandberg and Leaning In and Banning Bossy, etc., so I just nodded like yes-I-am and blasted off with my rocket pack to shatter the glass ceiling once and for all.

A cool thing happened

PANDEMONIUM!

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Yesterday after we made and put away a big batch of soup (pictured above), Devin yelled, ” Oh no! We’re going to have to make another soup! We have a giant leak!” Pandemonium ensued.

Only he actually said, “Oh no! We’re going to have to make another soup! We have a giant leek!,” which is a vegetable in the same genus as onion and garlic, commonly eaten in soups.

Let this be a reminder to all of you, lest a dramatic person in your life cry at the thought of mopping: it is important, when using homophones, to provide ample context for your audience.

PANDEMONIUM!

Chihuahua II

When I went home this summer, I got to visit Santiamén, a new boutique specializing exclusively in Mexican design. Everything sold there is designed by Mexican designers, made in Mexico, and it is all beautiful.

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I fell in love as soon as I walked in and saw this mural. Is it Frida Kahlo or Salma Hayek as Frida Kahlo? I can’t decide.

The experience was very special to me because I grew up in a city and state full of maquilas, factories that make things for U.S. (and some other international) brands. I could point to factories where American cars, greeting cards, blue jeans, and a huge number of other things are made. But these things are not cheap to buy in Mexico. In fact, they are sold at a huge mark-up because they are ‘foreign’ even though they are made right there! Furthermore, they are designed far away, so most if not all of the Mexico-based employees of these companies only get to realize someone else’s vision rather than playing a role in the creative process. And most importantly, the profits of these companies leave the country and end up in the pockets of executives abroad. In fact, the only reason they manufacture things in Mexico is because it’s cheaper; and many companies have moved their operations to Asia because there the production costs are cheaper and the labor regulations, more lax, meaning that they can pay and protect workers even less.

Oh, perfect black top, I think of you daily.
Oh, perfect black top, I think of you daily.

I dream of a world where national economies are truly independent, manufacturing things where they are and dealing directly with the people who make what they sell. I know it would be better for our environment, and I believe it would be better for our societies because it is harder to ignore injustices that happen down the street than it is to ignore those that happen on the other side of the world.

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Patterns that seem to dance on the fabric.

When I am in Chihuahua, I make it a priority to support the Mexican economy. My younger cousins laugh because before buying them any junk food, I make sure that it is made by a Mexican company and that we are buying it from a Mexican store. When we go out to eat, I ask to go to local restaurants. Until now, however, there wasn’t a place to buy clothes and accessories other than the traditional things from our region. Santiamén offers an exciting new way to support the Mexican economy, and I hope it is the first of many local stores that adopt this model (think of all the other possibilities: bicycles, furniture, linens, electronics, cars!). And did I mention it was beautiful?

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I’ll take one of everything, please!
Chihuahua II

Jena + Morgan


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On Saturday one of Devin’s very best friends got married. His name is Morgan, and he married Jena, who is as fun-loving and adventurous as he is. Their wedding reflected this in every way.

It was the kind of wedding where the couple planted a tree to symbolize their marriage, and the bride wasn’t afraid to shovel dirt in her white dress.

It was the kind of wedding where the groom’s dad composed an original song for the couple.

It was the kind of wedding where the bride’s mom gave a toast describing the couple as people who are more likely to climb Machu Picchu than go to an amusement park.

It was the kind of wedding where the couple didn’t bother getting a wedding cake because they knew their friends would bring dessert, and one of their friends casually brought a beautiful wedding cake decorated with flowers. Other friends brought a cake topper decorated to look like Jena and Morgan.

It was the kind of wedding where some people got tears in their eyes and everyone else sobbed.

It was the kind of wedding where everyone danced as long as they possibly could.

It was the kind of wedding where the festivities concluded the next day with brunch…and a gigantic homemade slip-and-slide.

Devin comes from an incredible community where everyone rolls up their sleeves and works together to make things happen, where some people grow flowers for weddings while others haul rocks, mow trails, put up tents, and bake enough bread to feed hundreds of guests just because they love the couple.

Thank you, Morgan and Jena, for bringing everyone together to celebrate the next phase of your life together. I’m so grateful I got to be there.

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P.S. A few people at the wedding told me that they read my blog, and I want to tell them something. I really didn’t think being in love with Devin could get any better. And then I met all of you! All week I kept wondering, “How am I possibly cool enough to know these people?” and then remembering, “Oh yeah…Devin!” Thanks for making me feel welcome. I can hardly be described as a woodsy “back-to-the-lander,” but you make me feel like I belong just fine.

 

 

Jena + Morgan

Chihuahua I

Devin and I are visiting my family in Mexico this week, doing all the things we never get to do at home, like eating freshly-picked figs and cactus from my  aunt and uncle’s garden, taking my niece to the park, and shopping for piñatas. Piñatas are true works of art, and today I think I might have found the very best ones. First, I found this one: I'll be here just swangin' Then, I passed this high-fashion statue: Evil Fashionista Obligatory close-up of the collar: YES In the end we settled on My Little Pony for my little pony of a cousin Isabella who turned eighteen today! Little Ponies

Chihuahua I

TWENTY-FIVE

all my friends are party animalsLast Saturday I finally got around to turning twenty-five. I’d meant to since my birthday, but first there was a big protest, and then there were big life things, and finally, I decided to make my lifelong wish to have a summer birthday come true.

Of course I wanted a ridiculous party, so I put on a gold dress and invited all my friends to wear animal masks with me. We ate all my favorite snacks: elotes, spicy watermelon, guacamole—even chamoyadas. Devin surprised me with my favorite cake, which happens to be the first cake I ever baked for him, and Tasha baked vegan cupcakes with gold sprinkles because she understands me.  After we’d had our fill, we walked to the nearest dance floor and danced our animal hearts out. It was magical.

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I am absolutely thrilled to be twenty-five. When I was in third grade, my two favorite teachers were twenty-five years old, and I couldn’t wait to be like them. They were so smart, so talented, so worldly. One of them had a tiny tattoo of a heart on her ankle. And they couldn’t believe the ‘Macarena’ was popular again because they had known the song and dance since college.

Now that I finally am twenty-five, I’ve been thinking about whether I’ve achieved a similar level of cool, whether I can live up to my nine year-old self’s expectation of wisdom and worldliness. What is my ‘Macarena’?

I did listen to The Weeknd back when his identity was a mystery and House of Balloons was a free download.

I knew ‘Pon Da Floor’ before it became the backing track to Beyoncé’s ‘Who Run the World? (Girls),’ and I think the original is way better (though I never learned its accompanying dance…).

I watched the first season of Girls in the midst of my own first season in New York, and the only thing I have in common with seasons 2 and 3 is a recurring cast of characters who love me despite the fact that I never seem to change.

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All of those things didn’t quite make me feel twenty-five, but last week I went to a wedding and when the five year-old flower girl requested the ‘Macarena,’ I thought, ‘Kids still listen to that?!’

It’s official. I have become my dream age!

TWENTY-FIVE

Oh, the Places I’ve Been: a Small Farm and a Big City in the Midwest

‘The Midwest’ is such a broad geographic region that when someone says they went there, you have to ask where exactly they went. A cornfield in Nebraska? A football game in Indiana? Somewhere in Kansas? I always describe the part of this broad region that Devin is from as ‘practically Canada.’ (He’s from Wisconsin.)

We spent Easter on Devin’s family farm, and it was so wonderful. Every time I go, I learn more about life in almost-Canada and marvel at how different it is from anywhere I’ve ever lived. There’s no major airport near there, so we also had a one-night layover with our good friends Jackson and Caye in Chicago. There we made a new friend, Mila. She happens to be their baby, but I think we would have hit it off regardless!

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Here are Devin and his family in front of their house. I’m always inspired by their work ethic and thoughtfulness. They had so much on their plate this spring, but they still gave me a grand welcome. Devin’s dad remembered how much I love his pad Thai and made it for me the first night I was there. Devin’s mom made pancakes with the blueberries we picked together last year and put together the best Easter basket–complete with Cadbury mini eggs. All the while the four of them were tapping trees for maple syrup, chopping firewood, and collecting eggs from their productive hens.
Tapping trees
Here are Devin and his dad tapping their trees for maple syrup (technically, it’s box elder syrup, but my city-folk palate doth not detect a difference).
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One of my favorite parts of the weekend was taking out the garbage. You have to drive it to the dump. Fortunately, they collect recycling there, too. This is the metal recycling section. To me it looks like an exhibit at MoMA PS1. I was mesmerized.
Speaking of re-purposing, here is a house made entirely of salvaged materials. It belongs to one of their family friends.
Speaking of re-purposing, here is a house made entirely of salvaged materials. It belongs to one of their family friends.
Doesn't it seem like the perfect place to write a poem?
Doesn’t it seem like the perfect place to write a poem?
Clearly, I am not a family photographer, but I like this picture of Mila and Jackson anyway.
Clearly, I am not a family photographer, but I like this picture of Mila and Jackson anyway.
This one of Mila and her mami turned out a little better.
This one of Mila and her mami turned out a little better. I call it ‘Sleepy Zebra, Happy Zebra.’
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We had so few hours there, but they happen to live down the block from one of the oldest feminist bookstores in the country. (What are the chances?!) This picture sums up my feelings. Every spare space in our suitcases was taken up with new, wonderful books!
Lake MIchigan is this blue, and you can just jump in and swim!
They also made sure we saw some sights. Serendipitously, Caye’s sister was also in town from Quito. She studied architecture in Chicago and taught us all about the cool buildings, but I didn’t get any good pictures. I did take this one of Lake Michigan, and I can attest that it’s really this blue, and you can just jump in and swim! So cool!

Hey Upper Midwest (or whatever you’re called), you’re pretty rad!

Oh, the Places I’ve Been: a Small Farm and a Big City in the Midwest

A comprehensive summary

It’s best not to count your chickens before they hatch, but I’m confident that, unless the internet breaks irreparably, my blog will turn three years old on Monday; and I probably won’t have time to write anything then because Devin and I have a date with the great outdoors. Blogging in the woods is decidedly not romantic, so here we are!

I started this blog right after graduating from college, and it’s weird to think about how much has happened since then. It doesn’t feel like my life is that different, but the stats say otherwise. In three years, I have said goodbye to Portland, moved to New York, and gone to Texas and Chihuahua, Mexico a bunch of times (note to self: blog about that more!). I’ve become an aunt and a married person. I’ve also had a lot of jobs and meals and little adventures.

I’ve been thinking lately about what kind of writer I am and realized, to my dismay, that I am a chronicler of small moments. I have some blog posts up my sleeve about Carnegie Hall and Chicago and a perfect little farm in Wisconsin, but for some reason, it’s always harder for me to write about the exciting than the mundane. It’s a bummer because I would like to write about all the exciting things that I’ve been able to do by some lucky coincidence, but I usually end up writing about grocery shopping instead. Really. I could have blogged about having a sleepover at the Waldorf-Astoria, but instead I wrote about smiling. I could have blogged about going to a star-studded event, but instead I wrote about dropping something. My blog posts aren’t usually premeditated, and I’m not sure what it means that these are the things I focus on, but I guess I can feel better about it if I tell myself that I am writing about things that are relatable. After all, I bet most people like the thrill of eavesdropping, and even more of us have waited in line to go to the bathroom.

Another thing that’s true is that I like writing personally. Three years ago I started a blog because I wanted to write about my whole life–not everything that happens to me but every facet of myself from silly things like making food to things that are possibly more controversial like my views on bordersSeptember 11th, and activism.  I wrote about these things because politics and ethics are just as integral to our selves as opinions and preferences. I didn’t want to shy away from that, and I’m proud that I haven’t. There’s an old feminist slogan that says “the personal is political” meaning that there are bigger issues affecting our everyday lives (how much we are paid or whether we are harassed on the street, for example). Conversely, I believe that it’s important to consider how the political is personal and to think about our role in making those things better. (For example, my little cousins almost didn’t make it to my wedding because their visas didn’t come in time, and you need a visa to come from Mexico to the U.S. but NOT vice versa. I don’t think that’s fair, and my first step in changing unjust border policies is simply sharing my story). I suppose if I had a blogging mantra, it would be “The personal is political. The political is personal. And the mundane is universal.”

Writing here is by far my favorite hobby, and I never cease to be surprised that my friends and family care enough to read my rambles, so thank you. It really means a lot.

A comprehensive summary

A pink spring

Has this spring seemed oh, I don’t know rosier than usual? No, really. I’m not sure if there’s more pink in my life lately, or if I am just noticing it more. Either way, I’m certainly not complaining! I’ve been enjoying it so much that I decided to document it for posterity.

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Pink blossoms on trees.

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…and my bike beneath them.

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My favorite playing cards, used to play Devin’s favorite card game with some of our favorite Brooklyn friends.

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A pink ice cream truck on the periphery of Central Park.

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This week I was very sick and needed a thermometer. Devin surprised me with this one. Can you believe such a thing exists? It made me smile every time I took my temperature.

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Today I finally felt well enough to ride my bike, and I couldn’t resist stopping to take a picture of these birthday balloons.

Wishing you good health and colorful surroundings,
kristy

 

A pink spring