Season’s Greetings from Dyker Heights

This house also had carousels on its lawn.

Last night Devin and I met up with our friend Hyunhee to see the lights in Dyker Heights. It’s been on my Christmas to-do list since 2011, and I’m so happy we did it this year. The houses there go all out with light displays on their front lawns. Think lights on every surface area, spotlights on enormous statues,  a couple of carousels, blow-up decorations, a crucifix, and some blaring holiday music to tie the scene together.

We brought our own holiday drinks and wandered the neighborhood while it snowed!

If you’re in the area and like Christmas stuff, I recommend it. Bonus: the subway ride there was much, much shorter than I expected, and there were no crowds. Oh yeah, did I mention it snowed? The flakes were so big I realized that the cartoon depictions are actually just what snowflakes look like up close.

For more Christmas times to be had in the city, see this post co-written by my cousin.

Season’s Greetings from Dyker Heights

Please enjoy with hot cocoa

I thought I might go all out with Christmas decorations this year, but it turns out there’s no need. One of our neighbors put out a sign offering to decorate everyone’s doors, so now I come home to a fully decorated apartment building every night. If I saw this in a movie, I’d be like ‘Pfff! That would never happen’, but it’s like the great Mark Twain once said, sometimes truth is cuter than fiction.

In my office building, I get to see a big tree, wreaths with twinkly lights, an electric menorah, and a Kwanzaa altar. I get really giddy when I pass the Kwanzaa decorations because one of the first chapter books I read was about a New York family who celebrated Kwanzaa, and I dreamed about moving here and meeting friends who celebrated it. I still don’t know anyone who does, but maybe this is the year!

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Outside, streetlights and lampposts and, yes, store windows are decorated, too; but I am most excited by the decorations put up just because. I do believe that the holidays are about much more than consumerism, and it’s nice to have visual reminders of this. Of course, materialism is a part of these holidays, just like it’s a part of every other aspect of our lives. Hate the capitalism, not the Christmas is the moral for me, though trying to come up with meaningful gifts that don’t perpetuate our current economic system is rough. A necklace made of foraged walnuts might be a nice gesture, but it isn’t particularly desirable, you know?

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Devin and I are going to Mexico to celebrate with my big family, under one roof for a whole week! Neat things happen when so many of us get together. One year we spent an entire day painting with watercolors. Last year I ended up watching three Hallmark Christmas movies in a row with my gruffest, most serious uncle. They all had names like Christmas with Holly (Holly being the protagonist, of course). The best part is that the movies were even too cheesy for me (me!), but my uncle stayed up to watch a fourth. It was called Naughty or Nice, and the main character was named Krissy Kringle, you guys.

When I was little, my cousins and I would dance and sing along to this 80s album of Mexican pop stars singing carols. I didn’t realize how nonsensical some of them are until I played them and Devin translated the one about fish drinking river water to celebrate Jesus’s birth while the Virgin Mary brushes her hair with a silver comb. It’s actually really catchy…

Before we leave, I want to bask in all the New York holiday cheer, decorate a little Charlie Brown tree, and maybe even talk some friends into going to see the lights in Dyker Heights! Do you have any holiday traditions? Or tips for things to do in NYC? What are the best stocking stuffers to disrupt the social order, anyway?

Please enjoy with hot cocoa

Ten of my favorite wedding pictures

Fun fact: our wedding was captured by two dear friends. Devin has known James practically his whole life, and I met Marissa the last time I wore a white dress in a church, my First Communion! They both had to travel far to attend and then got to work as soon as they landed. It is so cool to see the wedding through their eyes and know that the photos were taken with love.

We are really lucky to have family and friends who all chipped in and made the wedding beautiful and fun. Thanks, everyone! We love you!

1ceremony by marissa 2running out the church by marissa 3dinner by marissa 4tiny dancer by marissa 5james in action 6marissa in action 7morgan 8dev and grandma 9shoe game

10the wedding party

Ten of my favorite wedding pictures

The surprise party

Despite my best efforts, I am usually late. I try really, really hard and bargain with the universe to be on time, and then I am so sorry I’m late.  That’s how it came to pass that this morning I was fifteen minutes (but only fifteen!) late to brunch (after pushing back the meeting time twice–how does this happen?), and it is also why I’m only starting to blog about my wedding now, almost 4 months after the event. I think since it has been so long, I should just post pictures from the actual wedding since that’s what people really want to see, but I like being thorough, so let’s begin at the beginning.

Way back in July, my friends surprised me with the most perfect party I could ever have imagined. It was technically my bachelorette party. It was so perfect that there are almost no pictures because everyone was too busy having fun. Here is the little photographic evidence I do have.

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the spread

 

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There was fun. There was laughter. There was not a group picture. : (

 

There were homemade streamers and confetti, a big lavender-blackberry cake and tiny thumbcakes, snacks on snacks on snacks, and Drake on the stereo. Then, we went out dancing, and we walked straight into my dream place, which Tasha, Devin, and I had tried to go to for my birthday but weren’t even allowed to stand in line! Then, we ate falafel with a hot sauce so spicy it made me sob. It was hands-down the best falafel I’ve ever had. Then, we had a sleepover and watched an episode of ‘The Newlywed Game’ from 1966 with a surprisingly feminist contestant who seemed to be very happily married! And finally, we went on an epic quest for my favorite New York City brunch that culminated in a free cab ride. The whole time I kept looking around and realizing, ‘My friends really, really know me. They understand me, and they like  me!’

I’ve never liked the concept of a bachelor/ette party. You know, “One last hurrah before you lose all your freedoms!” Ew. But a celebration of friendship and being 100% accepted for who you are? That’s a party I’d like to throw for every single one of my friends. Whether or not they get married is irrelevant.

 

The surprise party

When my family comes to town

This past weekend, when my cousin and her husband came to town, I asked Devin to take a picture of us. As you know from this weblog, Devin is an old hand at accommodating my request for pictures, and he’s developed a strategy. As soon as I hand him the camera, he starts shooting. Unfortunately, I never remember Devin’s paparazzi skills, and days later I find 20 pictures of me making strange faces, like the surprisingly popular One Eye Open, One Eye Closed, Lips Puckered. (Do I walk around making that face? No, no, please don’t answer that.)

So you can imagine my surprise when this weekend’s rapid-fire picture-taking resulted in the world’s happiest outtakes.

'Wearing helmets is fun!'
‘Wearing helmets is fun!’
'So is taking them off!'
‘So is taking them off!’
'We both have hair!'
‘You’re so cool!’
...and here's the picture we actually posed for.
…and here’s the picture we actually posed for.

Josh makes a cameo in the background of all of these pictures. Don’t be fooled by his serious demeanor. The very first time I met him, he conned me into ordering my food at a French Café…in French. The café was on his college campus, and he promised it was staffed entirely by French majors. Je veux une baguette. I know it sounds ridiculous, but in my defense the menu consisted of French food words, and he is a master of deadpan. It’s a good thing his pranks are usually funny.

Love you so much, Vanessa and Josh. Thanks for coming to make my week!

When my family comes to town

México lindo y querido

Today is Mexican Independence Day. I started the day thinking about papel picado, yelling ‘¡Viva México! (¡Viva!), fireworks, and mariachis. Then, I over-thought it. What does independence mean? IS Mexico independent? I thought about imperialism—how almost all the foods sold at the Oxxo are American-owned, how practically the only commercials on TV for Mexican companies are the ones for Televisa itself. I thought about immigration—the friends Devin and I made who can’t visit us here, the friend in Texas who couldn’t go to her mom’s funeral. I thought about the drug cartels and ‘la inseguridad’.

And then I was like nope, not today. Today’s not for dwelling. It’s for celebrating. Even better, today could be for dreaming. And so I present unto you kristy’s solution to all of Mexico’s problems.

The solution is chamoy. Yes, I believe that a condiment is the answer. Hear me out.

Chamoy was created from Chinese dried pickled plums way back in the 1800s when the Chinese workers who built the railroad in California were kicked out of the US by the very government that benefitted from their labor (sound familiar?). The Mexican government was all, ‘Sure you can come over, bring food!’ Clearly I don’t know the specifics, but I imagine some people tried the plums and thought, ‘You know what would make this better? Chile piquín’. and thus was created a sauce in which spicy, sour, salty, and sweet flavors enhanced each other. A food with the potential to become the ultimate symbol of harmony.

Most people I’ve met outside Mexico have never tried chamoy. I always assumed it would be too much for people who weren’t used to it, but I was wrong. On our honeymoon, Devin and I ate lots of fruit with chamoy, and he declared that everyone should eat watermelon with chamoy because it is so much better.

We brought a big bottle back and have been revolutionizing our friends’ palates for the past two months. Everyone loves it. We took it to a church picnic last Sunday, and yesterday a womyn in our pew whispered, ‘I haven’t stopped thinking about that watermelon all week!’

I propose that Mexico makes chamoy its number-one export. Once people try it, they’ll love it, and it will be in very high demand. Drug users will decide it’s soooo much better than drugs, and the cartels will go out of business. The economy will be so buoyed that there will be plenty of legitimate jobs for everyone. Instead of narcocorridos, bands will sing chamoycorridos about the thrill of eating and sharing chamoy. Everyone will be so inspired by the harmony of flavors within chamoy that world leaders will decide barriers are bogus, and that life is better when we can all move as freely as chamoy spilling on a kitchen counter. All borders will be taken down, even the U.S.-Mexico border. And no Mexicans will have to migrate to have a better life, but anyone will be able to move anywhere without the fear of having to leave behind the world’s greatest sauce.

¡Viva el chamoy! (¡Viva!)
México lindo y querido

Pie-iversary

Shepherd's pie and blueberry pie
Shepherd’s pie and blueberry pie

Last weekend Devin and I celebrated our fifth pie-iversary. A pie-iversary is a holiday that desperately needs a new name (suggestions?). I made it up because in 2008 Devin single-handedly baked me two pies—the single-handed thing is not hyperbole; he’d just had surgery on his right wrist, so he could only use his left hand. Incidentally, he’s right-handed. He biked the pies over in the rain with a plastic bag over his cast and a kettle of tea in his backpack.

Since then, he’s done at least a hundred similar things. We joke that his motto is, ‘Go big or go bigger’ because his gifts and projects are always like this: thoughtful and ambitious. There was nothing else significant about that day. Neither of us remember if we even ate any pie together, but somehow the date has always stuck with me; and every year I try to celebrate it. Usually I do something sneaky to avoid having to bake (the biggest stretch was buying him a pint of Boston Cream Pie flavored ice cream), but this year I felt like making the real deal.

I modified this recipe for blueberry pie and this one for shepherd’s pie. Shepherd’s pie is a cheater’s pie because you can cook all of it on the stove (hooray!), but we stuck it in the oven for a little bit to give the top layer of mashed potatoes a little crisp, and I made a heart out of fresh sage from our CSA. Our four year-old neighbor heard we were making dessert and decided to come over for dinner. She discovered that she loves ‘chicken-peas’ (chickpeas). Devin and I discovered that I can bake. It was a two-course pie meal enjoyed by all!

Pie-iversary

Lately

New York has been full of fancy surprises. First, I found out that my next door neighbor directed the latest Animal Collective video. Then, I found out that a month ago when something was being filmed in my building and I was just grateful to be able to get into the building without unlocking the heavy front door—it was propped open so all the film people could scurry in and out, over and over—well, I should have been more curious! Because last week my neighbor told me it was a movie by that ‘old guy with the really dry sense of humor. You know…he’s Jewish…I can’t think of his name’ (direct quote). That’s right. A Woody Allen movie filmed down the hall from me, and I missed the opportunity to become his next muse. I could have been discovered while taking out the compost, and wouldn’t that make a good opening line in Vogue? ‘Rotten tomatoes usually mean the end of an acting career, not the beginning; but kristy so-and-so has always done things a little differently…’

Oh well! I did get to have dinner with friends on top of a building in the West Village that may or may not be the home of Sarah Jessica Parker. I am never fact-checking this story, for obvious reasons, but I can tell you definitively that the view was beautiful, and there were fireworks in the distance, and Devin and I made my favorite soup for the occasion. Yes, soup in August. It’s been brisk ever since we got back from our honeymoon, and I am slowly letting go of my dream to go swimming just one more time before September.

Lately

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It’s our first weekend in New York together, or rather it’s the hundredth one we’ve spent here but the first one we’ve spent as two New York residents, living in the same apartment, with no place else to be. It’s our first weekend in New York ~together forever~ if you know what I mean. And if you don’t, what I mean is we’re married!

This morning we went to look at a place where maybe we will make a home. ‘Is it a room or an apartment?’ ‘It’s both! It’s a two-in-one!’, we joked. A front door that locks, space for a bed, a stove, a little fridge, and a bathroom. That’s all anyone really needs, so we’re keeping our fingers crossed. 
 
After the apartment viewing, we came home and made tomato soup with  tomatoes of every color and ate it with homemade bread, a wedding present from our friends in Wisconsin.
 
Our life is one big wedding present lately. Heartfelt words and pretty cards and hugs and cool kitchen stuff and pictures and books everywhere we look! I can’t wait to write a thank-you note to each of you. For now, I’ll start with a big group thank-you right here.
 
All of your notes, phone calls, text messages, e-mails, playlists, recommendations, cards, pictures, packages, and trips to see us—whether at the wedding or before or after—have made the past month the most magical, awe-inspiring moment of my life. I looked up synonyms for ‘thank you’ because it just isn’t enough to express all the gratitude and love I feel for you. The best way I can sum it up is this: my cheeks hurt from all the smiling, and they’ve hurt every day since July 13th. Honestly, I’m not sure they’ll ever recover.
 
thankyouthankyouthankyoooou
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